Want to calm yourself quickly and retrain your brain to be more calm? Consider what you are saying to yourself. If you find yourself telling yourself things like the following, it is time to rework your self talk to be more helpful for you.

Do you hear yourself say?

“I can’t do this,”

“I am so overwhelmed!”

“What if I mess up?”

“I am scared I won’t be able to do this.”

What you do with this negative self talk is to turn it into a self prophesy,  giving you more of what you are thinking.

You can change your thoughts which will in turn change how you feel. Our thoughts are so powerful and so changeable. We can create what we want with what we choose to think. And yes we can choose what we think. We may feel one way and we can acknowledge that but we can then change our thought.

Here are some potential calming self talk statements.

“I can do this. I know I can make happen what needs to happen.”

“I can turn this around. I can do this one step at a time. I feel calmness come over me as I do what I need to do.”

“I am perfect just the way I am. I see myself accomplishing what I need to do.”

“I feel confident in my ability to  ______________  . ”

Two basic thoughts that help with anxiety are the following.

“I am safe.”

“I love myself.”

What we say to ourself is what we get. So create a world free from anxiety and full of confidence and calmness. It is in your power to do so.

This easing of anxiety not only helps us as individuals but helps us in our relationships. So consider this as a relationship building activity as well.