When we are ON all the time we begin to feel burned out and drained and find not much left for care of ourselves or of our relationships. It actually can begin to feel addictive, this need to be ON and “plugged in”. I can attest for my own self that I have to constantly be on guard as to how much I let things control my time. We have more power than we think we do. There is a practical, realistic piece as to work and personal commitments. What I do find interesting is that so many times the more balanced we become, the more focused and purpose driven we become. We can even accomplish more when we are in our ON work mode all of the time. And it can feel every so good when we are ON and all of our creative juices are flowing. This is most true of course when we love our work. It is finding that lovely balance that we all so crave. And that may be a bit different for each one of us.
But for so many it feels like we live in a crazy, busy world. So how can we switch to our OFF mode more often? Doing a bit of reflection can help to access your balance. This is a place to start.
Are you in OFF mode enough for Self and Relationship Health?
- What does your body tell you? You might consider how you feel physically.
- What does your internal “gut” tell you? So many times we know when we get quiet and still for a bit to consider this.
- Are you happy? Do you like how you are spending your time? Does it match up with your goals and desires for yourself and your relationship?
- Do your loved ones complain that they never see you or that you don’t spend enough time with them?
- Do you have enough contact with your family and friends that you really know what is going on in their lives?
- Do you feel close and connected with loved ones?
- Do you spend more time on Facebook, texting, on the internet than you do with your family? Does your “electronic world” take away from having OFF time that you need for your self renewal and your relationships?
None of us will be perfectly synced and balanced all the time with the perfect OFF / ON balance. But what we can consider is what this looks like most of the time. Plus, what is one man or women’s perfect fit is not so much for another person.
What are Some Practical Strategies to Put More OFF Time in Your LIfe?
- Get very clear as to what you want for your life. How much time do you want to be in work and volunteer commitment mode? In personal self-care mode? And in nourishing your relationships? Visualizing what you want can help you get there. It will lead you to make decisions that really fit for what you want in your life.
- Choose carefully what you do with your time. Make it match up with what you want. This feels the most rewarding and is the least draining of our energy.
- Strongly consider your personal relationship with your “electronic world”. Decide on purpose how much time you spend with the varying media that draws us in. Facebook, texting, Pinterest, Instagram, etc, etc,
- Listen to your “inner voice” to keep you on track. Setting aside a bit of quiet time each day for yourself can help you to stay in tune with what you really need.
- Listen to your loved ones. Really hear what they are saying. Make sense of it and take action to keep close connections.
Note: As I try to always “walk the talk” I will be taking a break from posting on my blog this next week to spend personal time with my family. I wish you well in your own personal journey in finding the right ON / OFF balance in your life.
Very powerful words and good advice. As a full-time pastor and a part-time therapist I need to read and reread this. Thanks. Allen Schneider
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