A year or so ago my son was trying to reassure me something was not a big deal. He simply said, “It’s all good.” I liked that simple reminder. So I find myself using it when I am feeling a bit down or discouraged. In general, I have found positive self talk to be tremendously helpful in shifting my thoughts to a higher and more helpful place. I know many who have found this to be true. Here are some practical and concrete ways to use positive self talk.
5 Strategies for Using Positive Self Talk That Works
1. You must believe what you are saying. This is one of the things that really activates our brain to move in this direction. If you are saying it and really not believing it, then it will probably not work. Our minds will definitely pick up on that kind of discrepancy. I am sure you have heard the term fake it til you make it. And there is some truth to it. So with this strategy, you can pretend with as much passion as possible and this may be enough to help things along. But ultimately for best results you will need to believe it.
2. Use power words. Basically use words that carry some punch and have a passionate feel about them. Putting out this kind of message will attract things that are similar to your message. For example: “Everything is falling into place.” or “An amazing day full of positive energy and smooth sailing is here before me . ” Using as much detail as possible helps too.
3. Remember to use a current tense. This of course sends out the message that It is” Happening” and that we are not talking about in the future, but we are talking NOW. And what is better than that.
4. Use your positive self talk as much as possible. Of course just like anything else, the more we do it, the better we get at it. Thus, the more successful it is.
5. Don’t get discouraged. Keep doing your positive talk, even if it does not feel like it is helping immediately. Your brain just needs to catch up with your new thoughts. Give it some time, it will work.
Note: For those of you who want a more scientific, researched term we can plug-in the words of Cognitive Behavioral Self Talk. This is about how our thoughts affect our feelings and behavior. It is all a circular kind of pattern. So once again, I might say, “It’s all good.”