5 Ways YOUR Happiness Can Create a Better Relationship

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Can your happiness and personal growth lead to a better relationship? I say YES! It may feel these two things do not always mesh. But they can and do. So how can our happiness create a better relationship? Here are 5 ways your happiness and feelings of well-being can lead to a better relationship.

  1. Being happy and filled with our own purpose sets a foundation for creating a happy relationship. If we are not happy and feel we are not in touch with own purpose for this life it is hard to create a deep intimate relationship with another. To be able to create a harmonious and synergistic relationship with another we first must feel good about ourself and what we are here to do. Then we can create a strong relationship.
  2. Happiness is contagious. Your happiness and feeling of well-being will spread to those around you.
  3. Coming from a place of happiness will allow for more good feelings about your loved ones.  When you are happy you feel more empathy and love for those around you. Many of our wisdom leaders talk about how we must first love our selves to really love others.
  4. You will have more to share with your partner. More stimulating conversations. Different interactions. This can create a space for growth and a new kind of connection.
  5. Being happy and filled with your own purpose allows you to take some pressure off the relationship. Yes your relationship should make you feel happy and joyful, but it should not be your only source of feeling good.

Consider taking time as a couple to work on personal growth and development. It may mean reading an inspirational book together and having conversation as to how this impacted you and your views of personal growth or happiness. Or it could be attending church together or developing a spiritual practice together. Or it could mean finding things that brings happiness and joy to you both. Or it could be that you find something you both feel passionate about that you can share.

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I had a personal experience this last week in which I took some time with my husband to attend a personal growth conference. It felt so wonderful to hear new ideas and talk about those ideas together. It was a challenging time to get away but we did it and we were glad we did.

So here is to learning more about self-care and how you fit in this wonderful world we live in. Weather you do this on your own or with your loved one,  it is well worth your time and effort. Personal growth and happiness can help create the foundation for a rich and rewarding relationship.




Be Happy for You and Your Relationship

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It may feel seeking happiness is a bit selfish. But it is not.  Being happy puts you in a place that allows you to show your best side to your loved ones. It makes a real difference in our relationships. I am sure many of you have heard the old saying, “If Mama ain’t happy, nobody is happy.” Well there may be some truth to that. Of course this saying includes Dads as well.  It is hard to be with someone who is not happy. And if the “not happy feelings” are more long-term they can affect others wanting to spend time with you, thus disrupting your relationship. In addition, children model their parents, so if you are modeling being unhappy, you may find your children follow this path. So taking time to be happy is a good thing for you and your family.

Ways to bring more happiness into your life and in turn to your loved ones. 

  • Check in with yourself and see if you feel you are doing what you want to do with your life. We all want to feel we have a purpose for our lives. This may be different at different stages of our lives. So be flexible with your thinking on this one.
  • Decide to find happiness in the NOW. Waiting until a particular thing happens or changes steals your opportunity to be happy at the present time. Yes we may need to make changes, but finding the things that we are currently grateful for can put us on the road to happiness in the present moment.
  • Keep a daily  ‘gratitude journal’, listing 3-5 things a day that you are grateful or glad about. 
  • Hang with Happy People. We are affected by those around us. When we choose to spend most of our time with others who are happy we begin to feel more happy too.
  • Make a list of things you love to do.  Include these things as regularly in your life as possible. You deserve it!
  • Acknowledge and honor your unhappy feelings, with then coming to a place where you can CHOOSE to BE HAPPY.  Use of positive self talk and affirmations that promote these happy feelings that you want to have can be a big help in this process.
  • Talk to others when you feel happy. As humans we tend to be drawn to wanting to talk about what is making us unhappy. When we choose to talk more about what makes us happy, we get more of those feelings.

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Being happy is not just for you, it is for your loved ones and those around you. Best wishes in your path to finding the happiness you were created to have.