Couple Time or Family Time at the Farmer’s Market

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Want to connect as you do something good for the environment and healthy for your body. Doing something that is simple, easy and meaningful. GO LOCAL with your marketing. 

It is that time of year when the FARMERS MARKETS are in full swing. If this is an activity you have not participated in before, you may want to consider giving it a try. The Tulsa area has several farmer’s markets that sell fresh produce from local farms. Some of these farms grow organic foods. Knowing where your food comes from and building a relationship with some of these farmers is pretty cool.  In addition most of them have local art and handmade products. It is a fun community event where people are there to promote local and to choose products that are good for our environment and more healthy for our bodies. And you will save money!

NOTE: If you take CHILDREN to the market, consider their age and how much walking they can do. For little ones a stroller or wagon can be very helpful. Of course, as with any marketing it is best to go when you are not tired. This especially applies for children.  Consider limiting your time to what your child or children can comfortable manage to keep it a positive experience. Letting your children help pick out your veggies can be fun and educational and allow them to be part of the process. You might expand this activity to a family or parent / child cooking time, using your fresh veggies you purchased at the farmers market. 

There are a variety of times these markets are open. I have listed the main markets in the Tulsa area below. The OK Food and Farm Alliance also has a listing of all of OK Farmer’s Markets. So if you are not in one of the Tulsa area towns listed, check out the OK Food and Farm Alliance website okfarmand food.org  

TULSA – TUESDAY

DOWNTOWN TULSA FARMERS MARKET

10:30 am – 2:00 pm, year-round     3rd and Boston

TULSA- WEDNESDAY

BROOKSIDE FARMERS MARKET

8:00 am – 12:00 pm. May thru October

Food Pyramid parking lot, 39th and Peoria

WINTER MARKET (see details for details)

www.cherrystreetfarmersmarket.com

OWASSO – WEDNESDAY

OWASSO FARMERS MARKET

8:00 am – 12:00 pm, April 29 thru October

TULSA – THURSDAY

PEARL FARMERS MARKET

4:00 pm – 7:00 pm, April 18 thru September 26

East end of Centennial Park, 6th and Peoria

www.PearlFarmersMarket.org

TULSA – THURSDAY

WESTSIDE FARMERS MARKET

7:00 am – 11:00 am , April 6 thru October

On 15th Street, just east of Peoria

www.redforkmainstreet.org

TULSA – SATURDAY

CHERRY ST. FARMERS MARKET

7:00 am – 11:00 am, April 6 thru October

On 11th Street just each of Peoria

www.cherrrystreetfarmersmarket.com

BROKEN ARROW – SATURDAY

BROKEN ARROW FARMERS MARKET

8:00 am – 12:00 pm , April 20 thro September 7

418 Main St.

JENKS – SATURDAY

JENKS FARMERS MARKET

9:00 am – 1:00 pm, April 27 thru October 5

Green Acres Market, 117 S. 7th St.

angier@greenacres.com

OWASSO – SUNDAY

OWASSO FARMERS MARKET

8:99 am-12:00 pm , April 29 – October

YMCA Parking Lot, 8300 N. Owasso Expressway

WINTER MARKET

9:00 am – 11:00 am, every other Saturday all winter

TULSA – SUNDAY

Guthrie Green Sunday Market

10:00 am – 4:00 pm, April 7 thru October 27

North Boston and 111 E. Brady St. in The Brady Arts District

www.guthriegreen.com

Hope you enjoy your time  “going local” and becoming a bit of a foodie. Your partner or family will enjoy this fresh open air environment and the healthy connection of good food and good times. 

That was not in the plan . . . how to roll with the flow!

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Taking a recent vacation made me think about how our plans many times do not go the way we think they will. You are correct that my vacation did not go exactly as planned or envisioned in my head.  But I adapted, shifted and had a great time.

Yes things do not always go as we expect. This can be with a vacation or a family outing or a date night or really any kind of activity that we have planned to do together as a couple or as a family. I am a big planner and I believe in thoughtfully preparing for outings with our loved ones. On the other hand somethings spontaneous, let’s go . . . can be very romantic or real fun for a family. So I guess a balance is nice. We each will have our own style.

Regardless if you have a PLAN or you are doing a spontaneous outing, being able to roll with the flow is important. Our lives are so busy and complex and things shift quickly. Plus, the biggie here is that we can not control everything around us. We can not control that the restaurant is out of our favorite dish or that the air conditioner breaks on our fun day trip or that a thunderstorm appears out of no where and you have to cancel or shift your outdoor outing.

So how can we better ROLL with the FLOW? 

  1. First of all accept that our planned or spontaneous event may not or probably will not go exactly as we had hoped for in our head.
  2. Acknowledge your upset feelings or those of your loved ones. It is ok to be upset or disappointed. The key is WHAT WE DO WITH OUR UPSET OR DISAPPOINTMENT.
  3. Accept and then say it is OK that it did not go exactly as we wished. We can still have fun and enjoy regardless of the hiccups or bumps in the road.
  4. Remember we are capable of adapting and shifting. We are amazing human being with the ability to make the best of whatever the situation.
  5. Shift to what you can do at that point. And know you can be ok with it.
  6. Use your positive mindset to create a place of acceptance and regrouping. 
  7. Sometimes if we look we can find these unexpected needed shifts can open up opportunities that were not there before. Some folks would say there are no accidents!

GO ROLL WITH THE FLOW AND ENJOY!!!

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Guthrie Green – Arts and Entertainment Park; plus FREE fitness programs and Local Sunday Market

image_4I discovered Guthrie Green this spring. Guthrie Green is in downtown Tulsa, located in the Brady Arts District. It is a full square block between Brady and Cameron Streets and Boston and Cincinnati Ave. This is a real Tulsa treasure choked full of wonderful events every day of the week. It opened in the fall of 2012. So still a fairly new Tulsa park. I would suggest you check this out as a couple or as a family.

I am listing some of the wide variety of activities that Guthrie Green offers to give you a general idea of the treats that are there.

  • Sunday Market (locally grown produce, gourmet food trucks, homemade soaps, hand crafted jewelry, etc.) 10:00 am – 4:00 pm, April to October
  • Fitness on the Green (FREE)

Mondays – Tai Chi 5:30 pm

Tuesdays – Boot Camp 5:30 pm

Wednesdays – Family Yoga 10:30 am and Lululeman’s Community Yoga 6:00 pm

Thursdays Boot camp 5:30 pm

Fridays – Walking 4:00 pm

Saturday – Mommy & Me Yoga Class 10:00 am

  • Special Community Fitness Events (FREE)
  • ConcertsFilms and Plays (FREE)
  • Lucky’s on the Green (serving lunch and dinner during park hours)
  • Woody Guthrie Center (across the street from Guthrie Green)
  • Food Truck Wednesdays (live music, amazing food trucks and fresh air picnic, every Wednesdays from 11:30 – 1:30)
  • Water Fountain Feature for Children’s Play

For more detailed information and their calendar of events go to www.guthriegreen.com .

Potential Fun Couple’s Date Night: Performance of Shakespeare Play “Much Ado About Nothing” 

There are too many events to list, but I wanted to note for a fun couple’s night out you might want to consider a Shakespeare in the Park event that is occurring June 11-June 16 from 8:30 – 10:30 pm with a 7:30 pre show. Much Ado About Nothing  is being preformed. This is a fun romantic comedy. The pre-show will be 40’s music and swing dance.

I hope you will be able to take advantage of this wonderful new Tulsa arts and entertainment park. It has much to offer. Have fun!

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Linnaeus Garden Celebration, June 15 – Free Butterfly Bushes and Gardening Lecture and Advice

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Do you and your loved one enjoy or have a strong interest in gardening. It can be a rewarding COUPLE hobby to develop and the fruits (or vegetables or flowers) of your labor can be great. The time spent together collaborating and creating something of beauty or meaning can be well worth the effort.

Tulsa Garden Center’s Linnaeus Teaching Garden 7th Anniversary Celebration is this Saturday, June 1st from 9:00 am – 2:00 pm.  The Linnaeus Garden is at 2435 S. Peoria Ave in Tulsa, OK.  This is a lovely place to visit without any celebration going on. But the extra benefits this weekend are as follows:

FREE one gallon, white “Profusion” Butterfly Bushes to the first 400 visitors.

FREE Seminar – GREAT GARDENING PRACTICES” presented by Dr. Carl Whitcomb, Horticulturist and Plant Breeder from 10:30 am – 11:30 am at the Tulsa Garden Center Auditorium

FREE Gardening Advice and Literature will be available from 9:00 am – 2:00 pm

Come enjoy this time as a couple enjoying the gardens and the special celebration.  And if you cannot come this weekend go and enjoy it in the summer, fall or spring!

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“Couple Time”? Our children are young and need us!

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Yes, young children do need us not only emotionally, but physically. And when they are so young, they are vulnerable and have special needs. So it is very tempting not to arrange for “Couple Time” when our children are very young. Many couples with young children feel overwhelmed with work (in and outside of the home), general parenting responsibilities and all of the very special needs of little ones. So WHY should “Couple Time” even be considered?

” It takes a strong, healthy couple to raise a child. Taking time to be connected and alive as a couple benefits your child as well as you.”

That said, it does not mean we have to take long vacations away from young children. Here are some things to consider when arranging for “Couple Time” when your children are young.

  • Consider the age of your child and how long they can comfortably be away from you. For example: If you have a nursing baby, it may be 2 or 3 hours tops. So you plan for a dinner out or an activity that will fit this specific time frame.  If your young children are ok with a sitter in the early evening, but have difficulty with others putting them to bed,  you can go out for a morning / afternoon / early evening time frame. Matching up and flexing with these kinds of needs can take the stress and worry out of your time away.
  • Find a friend, relative or sitter that you trust and feel very good aboutThis will allow you to relax and have a good time. 
  • Call if you need to, but try not to obsess. 
  • Use this special time to connect and “be with” your spouse or partner. As much as you can try to talk and interact about things other than your young children. 
  • Dress up and consider this a “DATE’. Keeping the romance alive is important, so make it a date. 
  • If you cannot go out, consider an “IN THE HOUSE DATE”. The baby is napping or children have gone to bed mid evening.  Go for it!  Create your own special time in your house. 

Enjoy this special time. Your couple interactions and special times together keep you connected and up for the challenge of raising healthy, happy children!

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Cooking Together as a Couple or Family – The Perfect Activity for Fun and Connection

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Cooking together can be an incredibly fun and connecting activity for couples and families.  Yes at times cooking can feel like it is a chore if we are tired and overloaded; especially, if we are doing it by our lonesome with no one helping. But together it can lighten this activity, infusing energy and time to talk and interact, something we all could use a bit more of. That said, if you are in an incredibly bad mood or need to be by your self, you may want to wait as some patience and tolerance is part of cooking together.

Cooking as a couple and cooking as a family will have some different dynamics. Cooking as a family with children requires more plan ahead and time alloted.  Cooking as a couple (if no children are involved) can be down right romantic and can be a bit more spontaneous. Just remember you may have different ideas on how to make something. Accepting this and avoiding being rigid as to how something should be made will help to keep it positive.

Here are some considerations in planning and cooking together as a couple or as a family. 

  • Including a planning piece can help to alleviate frustration and disappointment. Of course, at times everyone cooking together may need to be more spontaneous. But if possible, planning what you want and having the needed ingredients can sure make it a more smooth process.  Planning might include:
  1. What is on the menu? Choosing to plan this together can gain more cooperation and encourage a more team approach. This would of course be the most helpful if this is done before you do grocery shopping. Incorporating some things that each person likes can go toward a more satisfying meal for everyone. 
  2. If this is a family activity, are the dishes planned ones that have parts that the younger children can help with?  For example: tearing lettuce leaves, stirring a batter, throwing in specific ingredients, etc. 
  • Patience, tolerance and non perfectionism are some of the main ingredients for cooking as a family. Children are children and they will need to help according to their skill level. The process here is so much more important than the product. RELAXING and EMBRACING the MESS is part of it. 
  • Making sure there is enough time is important as children will slow the process.
  • Having a small healthy snack or appetizer before you start cooking may keep everyone more pleasant and patient.
  • If little ones are involved having a place set up that is safe for their involvement is important.
  • ENCOURAGING and PRAISING each other makes the process so much sweeter, whether it is as a couple or as a family. 
  • Planning a themed meal can be fun. For example: Mexican, Italian, etc or a Tea Party or a Backyard Picnic.


Note: As this is Memorial Day Weekend, you could plan a meal that honors a family member that is no longer with you, who has passed on. For example: Grandpa John’s grilled corn or Grandma Sue’s apple pie.  The idea here would be to include some dishes that the person was famous for making or a dish that they loved, etc.  This would encourage conversation and a time of remembering of our loved ones and their contributions to our food traditions. 

Happy Cooking!!!

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Tulsa Rose Garden, Tulsa Garden Center and Woodward Park – A Triple Hit for Mother’s Day (or any spring or summer day)

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You can’t beat the lovely combination of the Tulsa Rose Garden, Tulsa Garden Center and Woodward Park, all rolled into one. The Tulsa Rose Garden is at 24th and Peoria, right next to Woodward Park which is at 21st and Peoria. And the Tulsa Garden Center is on the other side of the Rose Garden. Linnaeus Teaching Garden is behind the Rose Garden and Tulsa Garden Center. These are all FREE to the public.

It is a wonderful time to visit as roses are in bloom and it is Mother’s Day Weekend.  Of course this is a triple hit for any sunny day or early evening for families and for couples.  Walking in 4 and 1/2 acres of roses is heaven. The Rose Garden in done in an Italian Renaissance style with 5 terraces and a reflecting pool. 

Take time to enjoy what nature has to offer at this time of year. This is a sure hit with moms, families and a fun place for a romantic get-a-way. 

ENJOY!!!

Family (or Couple) Travel Game – Mutual Story Telling – Builds Communication and Cooperation

As parents we know that children (well, actually adults too) can just last so long in the car before they become bored. Here is a game that can be used as a family or as a couple.

Here are some of the benefits of the MUTUAL STORY TELLING GAME:

  • This is a communication game in which careful listening is required by all players.
  • It encourages creativity and using your imagination.
  • Working together as a group is critical to making this mutual story telling successful.
  • It is also a cooperation game opposed to a competitive game. This story telling builds on what each person says.
  • There is no technology involved,  just your family.
  • Potential joint problem solving.

The Mutual Story Telling Game

Equipment Needed: None

Ages: 4 years and up; This can be used as a family game or as a couple game.

1.  Explain to family members how the game works. Keep it simple and consider the developmental age of your children. The explanation could be something like the following :

“We are going to tell a story together. There is going to be a beginning, a middle and an end. One of us will start with  – Once upon a time ….. Then then after a sentence or two, the next person will take over the story and

add something to the story that goes with what the first person started and then the next person will add something else, etc.

2.  It is important to note there is no wrong or right way for the story to be told or created. It may be a silly, fantasy story or a more serious one.  Whatever the members what to create is the order of the day.  This is also something you can relay to the family so they know that this is fun with no specific expectations or wrong or rights. Note:  If, as a parent, if you are concerned with the direction of the story you can add in with your parts ways to balance and interject your thoughts without judging or correcting.

2.  One possibility is to have a designated end time set up in the beginning that everyone is aware of. The ages of your children and the interest level may help decide this or you can decide as a group. Five minutes can give everyone several turns and not extend it out so long that folks become bored. You can always choose to end early if you feel interest is being lost, by simply saying lets each take one more turn and have our ending. You want this to be a positive experience. Note: An alarm timer on your cell phone can be set as a neutral time-keeper and then when that goes off you can each have one final turn.

3.  As to ending the story, you can have the person who started it, end it OR you can have another family member end the story. Deciding in the beginning who will end will help alleviate arguments.  

4. If there is enough interest, you can take turns starting a story, creating additional family stories.

Special Note: You might consider “Recording the Story” as it is told to create a fun family memory. Many cell phones have an audio record device.

The important thing is to have fun and enjoy the process of CREATING SOMETHING TOGETHER AS A FAMILY!

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COUPLE VARIATION ♥♥♥

This activity can be done as a couple also. This will probably work best when there is some time involved, like an out-of-town trip, when you have miles ahead of you. It also works best when you are both feeling a bit light-hearted and playful and feel like experimenting a bit. It can be a fun bantering kind of playful story that ping pongs back and forth. Give it a try and see what you think. You might consider setting a time limit, like 5 minutes or less if you are just trying it out. As mentioned above you can set an alarm to end your story, with each having one more turn after your timer goes off.

Here is to lots of fun mutual fun story telling as a family or as a couple!

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Annual Oklahoma Steam and Gas Engine Show – Pawnee, OK – May 3rd, 4th and 5th, 2013 – Sort of like a Mini Branson Trip !

Okay guys. This is one is for you! Of course, this is for everyone – males, females, couples and families. There is a little bit of something for everyone. This is an annual Pawnee, OK event,  normally held the 1st weekend of May. A fun out-of-town trip, but not too far, into a small country town. The event is held at the Steam Park Grounds. Adults: $8. per day and $10. for 3-day pass. Children: 12 and under are FREE. 

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English: Peerless Steam Threshing Engine in the gardens of Pawnee County Courthouse, Pawnee, Oklahoma (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

EVENTS

  • Steam Engines
  • Saw Mill / Shingle Mill
  • Blacksmith
  • Cornmeal Grinding
  • Rock Crusher
  • Quilt Exhibit
  • Rope Making
  • Broom Making
  • Corn Husking
  • Food Booths
  • Old Time Threshing Lecture & Demonstration
  • Case Steam Plowing
  • Parade
  • Steam Engine Spark Show
  • Kiddie Tractor Pull
  • Steam & Tractor Games

For more details and schedule go to www.oklahomathreshers.org

OTHER PAWNEE, OK ATTRACTIONS

Pawnee Bill Ranch & Museum

This is a 500 hundred acre ranch with a museum honoring Pawnee Bill. The ranch has the following to explore:

  • original Ranch blacksmith shop
  • 1903 log cabin
  • Large barn built in 1926
  • Indian Flower Shrine
  • Bison and Buffalo

Ck their website: www.pawneebillranch.com  for details on admission price and schedule.

Special Note: The last three Saturdays in June there are Wild West Shows performed re-creating the original Wild West Shows.

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Pawnee Bill Ranch and Museum (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Creating a Romantic Picnic in the Park

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It is Spring Time and the flowers are blooming and the grass is green. It  is a time of the year when it is not too hot and not too cold, for the most part. Of course, living in OK you never really know! In general a perfect backdrop for a romantic picnic in the park. One of the other upsides is that it is FREE.

STEPS TO CREATING A ROMANTIC PICNIC IN THE PARK

1. Consider WHICH park you choose for your romantic adventure.

The ones that would be most conducive to romance might be ones that:

  • Are large enough that you can separate yourselves from playground areas that have lots of active children.
  • Have the least road noise
  • Are the most aesthetically pleasing – flower gardens, ponds, etc.
  • Potentially less frequented

2. Think about WHEN to have your picnic. 

  • Possibly choosing a less frequented time.
  • Or think about which day you go. If you have some flexibility this will offer you even more privacy.
  • Consider a breakfast picnic or an evening picnic.
  • A quick, sweet meet in the park during the week at lunch can be novel and fun and send the message to each other that you can take a quick breather with your sack lunch to be with your honey. Of course this means choosing a park that is close to work.  This short burst of time together can be uplifting and help to keep you connected.

3. What to Bring

  • An old blanket to spread out and lay on if you like. 
  • Your favorite picnic foods. But “no worries” if you don’t have time to cook. Stop at your favorite restaurant and take their food the park.
  • Comfortable clothes and shoes to be able to fully relax and walk and explore.

4. What Not to Bring

  • Your cell phone (or turn them on silent to preserve the mood)
  • Your lap top
  • Your paper work
  • Your children
  • Your friends
  • Your problems and issues

5. What to Do

  • Talk
  • Sit and enjoy your surroundings together
  • Feed each other
  • Hold hands
  • Talk a walk around the park together
  • Take pictures of each other or have someone take a picture of the two of you to remember your special time together

Currently in April in OK the azaleas are in bloom, but as you know not for long. Woodward Park in Tulsa has one of the prettiest shows in town and then Muskogee’s Honors Park has a very large display of them. But there are of course beautiful flowers throughout the spring and summer. Plus, fall is a beautiful time for a picnic too.

A listing of Tulsa, OK  parks and their addresses can be located through the following website: www.tulsawalk.com . Click into Parks and Places. You will not only find Tulsa’s parks, but other neighboring OK towns: Catoosa, Bixby, Bartlesville, Broken Arrow, Owasso and Sand Springs.

Hope you have a wonderful picnic, just you and your honey!

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